Hello, my lovely Rising Soul Chronicles Friends!
Welcome to another enlightening post. Today, we’re diving into a topic that many shy away from: accountability in friendships.
LET'S TALK ABOUT IT!
But first, let me quote myself:
WHAT IS FRIENDSHIP?
Friendship is the equivalent of a marriage.
While it may not be upheld by a court of law, it's done so by a code of LOYALTY.
You can have a friendship that spans decades, but does time truly determine its value? Should time impact loyalty?
In my view, it shouldn't. True friendship is not measured by mere physical presence but by the depth of investment and the essence of connection, which, in my case, often takes the form of prayers and spiritual support. My physical presence may be absent, but the prayers I offer carry profound significance.
This post was inspired by a recent discussion with someone I consider a friend—a term I use with great care. I don't base my loyalty on how or when someone was present in my life. I prefer to keep many things private, as I believe in respecting others' boundaries. Unlike some who openly share their lives on social media, I find that approach isn't for me. We all handle life in our unique ways.
I am not, nor have I ever been, one to seek SOCIAL MEDIA EMPATHY. My family and friends are sacred to me, and you won’t find me posting about them online. True friends understand this about me and, if not, I don’t hold it against them.
Now, back to our main topic: long-term friendships. We often celebrate the years invested and the joyful moments shared. However, it's crucial to acknowledge that despite our best efforts, friendships are sometimes judged based on our absence during certain times. It’s a harsh reality when people forget that they, too, were absent during our times of need.
Friendships should be built on RECIPROCITY, but sadly, many are lost due to a TIT FOR TAT mentality. Some friends only connect with certain people based on niche interests. If I haven’t maintained daily communication, it doesn’t mean I’m not a true friend.
We all face losses and struggles. For instance, after the tragic death of my nephew and his father’s subsequent passing, I was deeply affected. Yet, the pain of such loss is often overlooked by others, who are absorbed in their own lives.
So, here’s the question: IF WE DON’T JUDGE, WHO ARE WE TO BE JUDGED?
As I’ve mentioned, we live in a fickle world. I don't share my pain or many personal details on social media, but I offer my prayers and support, which hold great significance for me. It may not be visible to everyone, but it is deeply meaningful.
You might not agree with my perspective, but I'm sharing it as I see it. This blog isn’t about seeking approval but about resonating with those who understand and appreciate it.
Are we holding on to friendships out of longevity alone? As my dear friend Doris would say, "Ma’ammmmmmm - where - Ma’am." She has an uncanny ability to read people and discern true friends from mere acquaintances. Her insight, along with other phenomenal women in my life, will feature in this friend series.
Stay tuned for more in PART II & III of FRIENDSHIP, as I delve deeper into the meaning of friendship and the invaluable connections in my life.
Love is YOU, Rising Soul Chronicles Friend!
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